"Marsha,
I will soon attend the wedding of my daughter's best friend. It is a destination affair, in Hawaii. Her parents gave my daughter a very lavish gift, but they didn't have to pay the expenses to attend an out of town wedding. Must we reciprocate with an expensive gift?- Ms. Corrigan"
Ms.Corrigan,
Thank you for asking such a practical question. It is understandable that you would like to reciprocate a generous gift to your daughter with another generous gift. However, the art of giving, no matter how small or large, is always the pleasure of the giver. By attending the destination wedding, you are sharing a priceless gift with the wedding couple. My advice is to choose a gift from the bride's registry that is within your means, and to send it before the wedding. To give outside of your means is vulgar. There is no need to mention the monetary value of your gift, no matter how generous or modest. If anyone else comments on the monetary value of a gift, it is a result of their bad taste, not yours.
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